Do you want to try “self care for moms” ideas you can both realistically do and make time for? Read on, you won’t be disappointed.
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I can still remember how awkward I felt when I met my son for the first time. The doctor placed him on my chest, and I have to admit, it took me a few seconds to realize where I was and what had just happened.
I remember feeling a warm tiny body moving on my chest and instinctively, I felt the urge to hug and kiss him on his head.
I was happy to be a mom, but I also felt strange. Two days later, we were discharged from the hospital and reality started setting in…
I was having a hard time adjusting to being a mother to say the least.
Eventually, I realized that all the books I had read, all the forums I took advice from and my own mother’s tips, couldn’t have prepared me for this roller coaster that is motherhood.
I was sleep-deprived, very emotional to not say moody and angry most of the time.
Now, let me elaborate on the anger I was feeling. I was angry that:
- I couldn’t do things at the pace that I used to do things. (Going to the supermarket with a baby actually takes some planning… I didn’t know!)
- I wouldn’t do things on a whim anymore ( Ah spontaneity, where are you?)
- I didn’t recognize my body, and felt as if a part of me was gone (along with my placenta.)
And for a very long time, I felt ashamed. I felt miserable because my inner self kept telling me that is wasn’t about me. Thinking about it now, I know it was only my guilt speaking.
You can actually read for yourself the inner fight that was going on in my head
Me: I can’t do this anymore… I just need 5 minutes to myself. Is it too much to ask? (rhetorical question of course…)
Guilt: 5 minutes? Don’t you hear the baby crying? Mothers these days… you don’t get some “me time”. This isn’t Disneyland honey, this is real life!
Me: I know this is real life, but I think I need a break if I want to be the best mom that I can for my son.
Guilt: Honey, let me remind you in case you had forgotten. Moms are on duty 24/7. They don’t get a break, an hour for lunch or even a day off. That’s just the way it is.
As you can see, my guilt had a very L.O.U.D voice. But I knew deep down I wasn’t the only mom to feel like this.
After discarding my inner thoughts telling me I was selfish and doing some research, I stumbled upon books and blog posts recommending self-care and I started doing more of that.
However you might be thinking…
WHY IS SELF CARE FOR MOMS IMPORTANT?
Oxford defines self care as the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
Now, as a working mom, you spend the majority of your time pleasing and making other people happy.
You need to be efficient and deliver results at work. You’re striving to be the best mother and partner that you can be for your family. Because you love them and you would do anything to ensure they’re happy and well taken care of.
But what about you? Don’t you need to take care of yourself and ensure your own happiness and overall well-being?
I get it. Really I do. You’re a mom, you work a lot, you have to raise your kids on top of everything else that falls upon your shoulders.
But let me tell you this:
Before to be a Badass mom, You’re a human being. A woman who needs to fulfill her own happiness cup to be the best version of herself. This isn’t about selfishness.
This is about making sure you are satisfied with your life and can be there for your family with the right energy and attitude.
Trust me, when you feel sad, unfulfilled and stressed out, the people around you can feel it. They can make the difference between your happy self and you being at the edge of starting an argument.
People who really know you can sense those things. Yes, even your 3 months old baby.
So now that you know why self care for moms is important, I’m sure you want to learn…
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF SELF CARE FOR MOMS?
Taking a little bit of time each day, even for a few minutes to take care of yourself will:
- Relieve you from the day to day stress you may experience
- Help you achieve a better balance in your life
- Make you appreciate your life and health a whole lot more
- Give you the strength to take care of the people and things that matter to you
- Enable you to experience simple and/or new things you’ve always wanted to try
HOW CAN I PRACTICE SELF CARE FOR MOMS REGULARLY?
1 . The first thing you need to do, is to let go of that guilt you’re feeling when it comes to doing something just for you. I really hope I could convince you earlier that it is not only okay, but mandatory for the people around to know you are happy in your life.
Nobody wants to be around a person who’s feeling down all of the time and doesn’t have the energy to do anything.
2 . Make it an obligation upon yourself to practice a little bit of self-love on a regular basis. Even for a few minutes each day. Consistency will be the key to make your “Me time” stick.
Maybe you could ask a friend to start this journey with you. And you could both hold each other accountable every week, and even go for a beauty treatment together once a month?
3. Pick a day to pamper yourself. Mine is Tuesday. And every Tuesday I do some body maintenance which includes:
- A face scrub/mask
- trimming my nails
- Shaving (8 times out of 10 because I don’t always feel like it lol)
- and scrub my feet
This is my routine, but yours can include whatever you like.
Alright, now let’s get to the good stuff…
What are the best self care for moms ideas you can do more of?
10 WAYS TO IMPLEMENT SELF CARE FOR MOMS IN YOUR LIFE
1 . Prioritize your sleep (you need it)
If there is one thing you shouldn’t compromise on, it is your sleep. Being sleep-deprived is a short road that will lead you to burnout.
Having children and other obligations can make an 8 hours beauty rest “seem impossible”, but know that it is important for your body and mind to rest.
So if you can’t get these hours in one shot, maybe taking naps and using your days off can be a good way to catch up on sleep and feel more energized.
2 . Read one book every month
Reading is one of the oldest and greatest ways to learn and educate oneself on any topic you can possibly imagine. Whether you’re into romance, science-fiction, personal development or even biographies.
Reading a book every month will skyrocket your knowledge, your street-smart and save you during social small talks. If you have the opportunity, join a book club with other moms.
To meet other fellow Supermamas’ and to hear their different perspectives about a same book.
3 . Have a treat or cook your favorite food
I love food. In fact I love it so much that some of my baby weight has decided to hang a little bit longer with me. But seriously, Food, and I mean good food, always brings comfort.
Maybe you could make that favorite dish you enjoy so much. Or if you’re anything like me and have a sweet tooth, you could get a treat from one of your favorite bakery or even bake something yourself along with the kids.
It’s a win-win situation
Related: Try this easy and quick French yogurt cake recipe
4 . Surround yourself with inspiration
I think being inspired is fundamental to be fulfilled in life. When we’re not inspired, we stop dreaming, creating and hoping about the future.
That’s why I love to surround myself with things and people that push me to be a better version of myself. To do that, I love to have friends and people around me who have a positive energy about life.
When it comes to my environment, I love to light candles that smell A.M.A.Z.I.N.G, because they make my mind travel and plan my next vacations.
I also use a journal to help me carry my thoughts and envision my dreams and goals for the future, And if it has inspiring quotes, awesome stickers and pretty colors, you can be sure I will buy it.
Should I talk about mugs? I LOOOOVE mugs! Especially those with a funny joke that makes you chuckle in the morning while sipping your coffee.
5 . Exercise more often
Well, well, well… Look at me giving an advice I hardly follow. I’ve been paying my gym membership for the past 7 months and I didn’t go ONCE! Why am I still paying you wonder?
Well, you know… “I think if they keep taking my money each month, “eventually”, it will encourage me to show up and make my money worth it.
I’m probably the 100,076 person to think like this, but who cares!
Exercising is great to get your body moving and release the tension you feel throughout the week. Every time I exercise, I feel tired but I also feel great afterwards.
For now, I take long walks with the stroller, but it’s definitely great to have a workout routine you can do twice a week.
I know you won’t believe me but, there was a time in my life when I was working out every single day. And one thing that was motivating me, was having a cute fitness outfit and fitness mat to stretch. I felt very “professional” 😉 !
6 . Do something good for others
Being happy is something everybody strives for. However, being a good person is a goal we should try to get closer to every single day of our lives.
Being good to others is a way to expand your happiness. When you do a good action, there is this peace that comes from within that automatically put a smile on your face.
Doing good doesn’t always have to be costly.
Most of the time, it’s free. A gentle smile, holding the door for someone, being a good friend, or listening to someone who needs to get something out of her chest.
It might seem simple, meaningless, but sometimes that’s all it takes to make someone’s day better. So go ahead and spread “GOOD” everywhere you go like sprinkles.
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7 . Take some time to relax
Sometimes, you just need to chill and have a quiet moment. In these situations, I love to use adult coloring books to unwind and take my mind off of little problems I have.
You should try it out, it really helps. There is something about coloring and filling in the blanks that is truly satisfying and calming.
You might find it weird at first, but don’t let it stop you. A few days of coloring later and you will swear by it.
If you suffer from anxiety like I do, it is truly one of the best ways I’ve found to overcome it.
8. Beauty from the inside out
I am not a girly girl per say, but I’ve learned one thing over the years that is truly worth all the money you will ever invest in any beauty product. Are you ready to hear it?
Here it is: Confidence in yourself and your body will always make you more beautiful than any makeup out there.
It might sound cliche but it is the truth.
So yeah, beauty start from within. But a little help from the outside doesn’t hurt either, right? That’s why I love doing my own manicure from time to time and play with different colors.
I’m a little classic but I always reach for the same colors: a blush pink, a bright red, a rebellious black and sometimes I dare to go all white.
What is your favorite nail polish color? Another product you should definitely try are beauty masks, they clean you skin deeply, unclog your pores and give you a fresh face.
9. Have a good laugh
Being an adult is hard. You have responsibilities, bills to pay and many people counting on you. We take life so seriously sometimes, that we forget to have fun and have a good laugh.
My son is 10 weeks old but he’s smiling all the time. Even during his sleep.
Which make my husband and I smile as well, because it feels good to see an innocent happy face (toohless but cute nonetheless).
Smiling and laughing is good for your heart and your mood, So do more of that. I am a big fan of comedies, reading jokes online and have funny text conversations with my loved ones.
What makes you laugh?
10. Your health is the most important thing
Last but not least, let’s talk about our health. It is important to know that good health doesn’t only revolve around the physical aspect of it.
When I mention health, what I truly mean is how are you feeling mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually?
Answering the right questions, especially the ones that make you uncomfortable will help you detect the problems affecting your life and solve them.
We’re so used to being busy all the time that we can’t even hear the noise that is shouting in the back of our heads. Take the time to sit down once in a while, and evaluate where you are currently in your life.
ON A FINAL NOTE !
In conclusion, I want to say that self care for moms is something we can do a little bit every day. It doesn’t have to cost you a lot of time, or a crazy amount of money. The best part is that you can try most of these ideas at home and with your family around. So no more excuse 😉 !
What does self care for moms means to you? And what self care idea would you like to do more often?